You know how sometimes clutter bugs you at first, but it soon becomes part of the landscape of the home so that you don’t notice it anymore? To show from the outset of this blog that I am not a perfect housewife, I present to you the hutch in our main living area, in all its messy glory:
You see, when we moved out to SoCal, we had to downsize quite a bit. Gone was my whole wall full of cabinets where I kept spare linens, art supplies, and cookbooks, so I picked up this hutch as a sort of replacement. Over the past two years, though, I’ve found myself sticking all sorts of random things there because there was nowhere else to put them. At first, it bugged me, and then it slowly just became so familiar that I don’t even know what belongs on there or what doesn’t anymore. The hutch’s actual function has become muddled.
I know the solution, of course. It’s to give it a good spring cleaning–step back and take everything off of it and only put back the things that belong.
Our view of ourselves as full-time mothers might need the same spring cleaning regimen. Maybe we start off with an ideal picture of motherhood and homemaking. But slowly the vision gets muddled as time passes and we’re in the trenches of changing diapers and wiping runny noses. We might wonder if this chaos was what we signed up for when we decided to stay at home. (“Do kids really have this much energy every single day?!”) Maybe we start to get nudged by the messages of the world. (“You can have it all, so why are you settling for just being a mom?” “You have to have two incomes to maintain an acceptable standard of living!” “Caring for children is not a worthwhile vocation.”) Maybe we’ve been on a sleep deficit for so long that we don’t even notice the haze anymore. (I have an eight week old, so I’m speaking from experience.)
I think we periodically need to do a spring cleaning of our mindset. Let’s clear off all the distractions and get back to the fundamental reasons we became mothers and homemakers. Then we can slowly take on the supplemental tasks, both functional (laundry, cooking, cleaning) and decorative (making matching Christmas stockings, DIY home projects, gardening).
Girls, we have a noble and vital calling. We are forming the minds of the next generation, and our work is precious in God’s sight. Each day of feeding and clothing little people is an investment in the future. Let’s remind each other of the value of being everything to someone. And I’m looking forward to discussing the other stuff, too!