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Because I had four children in 6 years, a great deal of my life for many years has revolved around poopy diapers. I’m going to be honest—some days, I think that I’m pretty overqualified for this lowly, menial task: “Did I really need a BA for this? I had diaper changes down when I was babysitting at age 11!” Or as another friend (with a PhD) lamented, “Some days I feel like a really overqualified housekeeper!” Maybe you’ve even gotten comments like I have, “You went to college even though you’ve always known you want to be a stay-at-home mom? That’s…interesting.” You don’t have to have babysat since age 11 or have a PhD to feel this way, right? Whatever level of education or expertise or accomplishment we’ve reached, there are aspects of parenting for which we are “overqualified.”
Thank goodness! Because if you’re like me, there are even more aspects of parenting for which you feel underqualified at times. When my preschooler asks me a series of theological questions to which I don’t know the answers, I feel unprepared. When I’ve had three heart-to-heart conversations with a six year old about caring for his sisters, and he goes and shoves someone again for getting into his legos, I wonder if I just don’t have what it takes to reach his heart. When my two year old is throwing a tantrum while I’m trying to check out of the grocery store, I feel helpless. Every time we added a new baby into the mix, I suddenly felt that I didn’t have enough hands to go around!
I’ve literally had people ask me if I get bored “just being home” all day, as if just being home isn’t constantly stretching and challenging me and forcing me to my knees! I always reply, “With four kids, there’s never a dull moment!” And I try to add, “We have a lot of fun!”
When I connected the “overqualified” and “underqualified” parts of my day, it helped me see the diaper changes and dishwashing as breathing spells in the long uphill sprint of daily life at our house.