Identity and Motherhood, Part 8

Identity and motherhood: accepting our mommy bodies

We’re ending our series on identity today. We hope it has been helpful for you to think through this issue a little bit; I know it’s been helpful for us. We’ve talked about the Biblical foundation for our identity, and then went some different directions discussing how our culture tends to identify your identity based on your resume, your income, or your body type.

I want to finish up today with a call to humility. I’ve already touched on this a bit, but I think it’s a good place to end our series. As we think through the ways that we interact with those around us, I want us to, first, identify ourselves as servants. When we do this, we imitate Christ, who told us that He came to serve.

If we can change our thinking from I’m a mom or I’m a lawyer or I’m a secretary or I’m a non-profit director to I’m a servant, we are going to be much better equipped to deal with whatever circumstances come our direction. If we can think this way, when life needs to transition, we will be able to handle the shift in our focus. Transitioning from a job you enjoy to being a stay-at-home mom is one of the toughest transitions out there–all of the mommy-wars literature can attest to that. But if we have already been thinking of ourselves as servants of Christ, serving him in one capacity in our jobs, it will not be as hard to transition to serving him by serving our children.

It’ll make other transitions easier, too. Losing a job, not getting the promotion you wanted, needing to scale back to care for an aging parent or spouse: all these will be easier if we already have the mindset of a servant.

As an added bonus, thinking of ourselves in a humble way will make us much better dinner conversationalists. My husband was telling me recently how the ancients thought of true friendship as that where you desire the best for your friend. So much of small talk these days centers around making sure that everybody else in the room knows how awesome you are. It is an expression of love for others around you to express interest in what they’re doing, even in something so mundane as small talk.

Let’s think of ourselves as servants. I promise, there will never be an identity crisis in that.

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One Response to Identity and Motherhood, Part 8

  1. Allison says:

    I’ve enjoyed reading this series. Your comments today especially hit home. Adopting the servant mentality is so valuable to our family and to ourselves. It is the modeling of Jesus life. My son would appreciate me sparing him the eye roll when he spills his drink for the third meal in a row (that we have planned, spent time preparing, pleasantly presented, etc. . .)and conversation is interrupted to deal with the mess. The practical application of this is something to seriously consider. Thank you for the challenge!

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