I was listening to a podcast on the way home from taking my husband to the airport at 4 am, and when they started discussing Edith Schaeffer, I knew I needed to dust off the old HAF tradition and recommend it to you, dear readers! Plus it’s been a while since I’ve shared recommendations and links.
First of all, I am loving the What Have You podcast, featuring Rachel Jankovic and Bekah Merkle, both of whose writings inspire and encourage me. The hosting is funky, and I haven’t been able to download them with my BeyondPod app, but you can download them directly from the site. I love how these sisters share the domestic details of their lives (strategies for washing socks, finding the perfect piemaking cookbook, reglazing windows) as well as practical parenting strategies, and, in the most recent podcast, a great discussion of why homemaking and college education are not at all incompatible.
On my own domestic front, I had a couple epiphanies about my struggle to keep house yesterday. My amazing in-laws are in town for the week, and yesterday, they and my husband took the kids on a hike in the afternoon while I stayed home and puttered around. I was able to put things away, tidy up the entire main floor of our house, reshelve dozens of books, sweep, run the roomba, start dinner prep, start a load of towels, call one of my best friends who I haven’t talked to in weeks and get an update on her (difficult) pregnancy, put away a few things from our last moving box (which is very slowly being unpacked, finally, up in our bedroom), and then sit down, relaxed, in a clean room that had stayed clean for over an hour! I realized what a great help it is to have family around. I think those of us who struggle with keeping houses and children together while living out-of-state from family should cut ourselves some slack. It might not seem like much, but having local family who could take my kids for a couple hours, not just when I have appointments or need to run errands, but just because, would drastically change my life. If you do have local (helpful) family, be thankful! Also, having all of my kids gone for the afternoon gave me this little picture of what my life as a SAHM would be like if I weren’t homeschooling. I definitely feel the call to homeschool and would be heartbroken if my kids weren’t home with me, but my house would definitely be a lot cleaner and I would be a lot more put together if I didn’t have my crew around, undoing my housework, 24/7. If you’re a homeschooling mom like me, please remember this when you compare yourself to friends whose kids are out of the house seven hours a day. Maybe the rest of you all don’t struggle with my insecurities when it comes to judging your housekeeping skills, but I need to remind myself constantly not to compare apples and oranges.
And while we’re talking about housekeeping, I want to share a cookbook recommendation with you! Some friends just gave me Better Baking, a new cookbook by a friend of theirs. If you’re the kind of baker who likes sneaking in more whole wheat flour or cutting down on refined sugars but finds those “healthy” dessert recipes you pinned on pinterest underwhelming or downright gross (my husband still complains about the chocolate chip cookies I ruined with chickpeas), this is the cookbook for you. There are a lot of recipes that call for specialty flours or ingredients, but she has actually explained WHY she uses those ingredients and what properties they add to a baked good. Don’t get me wrong, these foods are not guilt-free (though our family joked that since I used whole wheat flour and fresh squeezed orange juice in J’s birthday carrot cake out of this cookbook this week, it was “health food”), but I personally have found the recipes I’ve tried to strike a good balance between positive nutritional content and having a dessert that actually still tastes yummy. Bonus: if you have dietary restrictions, she has plenty of gluten-free, dairy-free, nut-free, and vegan options. Anyway, stick it on your list, and maybe someone will buy it for you for Mother’s Day!
On to recommended links to read! This one on what research (and common sense) tell us about raising children (hint: letting them get out and play, a lot!) confirms to me why I’m homeschooling my kids, particularly my son, right now. Best line: “Most of us spend hours each day sitting at work. Science says it’s killing us, and we have developed all kinds of fads to combat it–from standing desks to smartphone alerts to get us up and moving. Armed with that knowledge, however, what do we force our kids to do each day at school? Sit still, for six or eight hours.”
And along the same lines, I loved this Circe blog post about how not all good and valuable things can be measured by a standardized test!
Did you catch this beautiful piece on embracing the sacrifice of motherhood?
And I need to read and reread this post on Motherhood as a Craft: Cultivating Wonder.
Okay, my kids are up and want to snuggle before breakfast! Have a beautiful Friday and a wonderful weekend!